How are you?

How are you? Really?

We hear it all the time. We probably even say it all the time, every day to friends and co-workers.

How many of us listen to the answer that comes back. My guess is not too many because we really do not care. We are caught up in our own little world with all our own issues and problems.

People that know me well have probably heard my answer to the question "how are you?" many times.

I quickly respond that I am doing GREAT but it is still early and lots of stuff can go wrong!

Who knows why I say this? I think initially I was just tired of saying F-I-N-E, especially when I wasn't fine as I was unhappy about something in my life. Eventually I was responding like this because of the reaction I got from people. Most people stopped in their tracks. I then tell them that actually I am doing well. I am having a good day.

We all have a choice in what kind of day we are going to have. Hopefully you believe this! If not, I feel very sorry for you. You can focus on the things that you have control of or those that are out of your control. This one decision will dramatically influence what type of day you have.

Control or No Control...that is the question!

Almost 25 years ago, after going through some significant personal struggles, the light bulb went on in my life that if I could just stop myself long enough to ask this question when I find myself in a situation or dilemma...

Can I change the situation that I am in or is it out of my control?

Being able to ask this question and answer it honestly will guide you though your days. This does not make them or assure that they will all be perfect but I guarantee you that will give you a lot more good days than bad days.

How are you today? I am good and I mean it!